Playing a Positive, Active Role in Your Teen's Life

As tweens begin their teenage years and grow up to become young adults, it’s important that parents play an active role in their lives. As a parent, you’re probably thinking your teenager wants absolutely nothing to do with you and your spouse, but whether that’s apparent or not, research shows that it’s important to stay tuned in.

According to an article published in The Wall Street Journal, the role parents play in their teenager’s life is more important than they realize.


Ages 13 to 14: Communication is Key

This is the time where your teenager’s social stress is likely to build, often causing them to take it out on you at home with slamming doors, arguments and more. This is an emotional rollercoaster of a year for both you and your teenager. Communicate with your teenager about friendships, peer pressure and life at school to help them through this tough time.

Ages 15 to 16: Encouragement and Support

According to a study published in The Journal of Neuroscience, the urge to take risks peaks in teens at this age. As the result of an intensifying response to dopamine, teens anticipate thrill-seeking more than ever before. This is also the age where teens are willing to do whatever it takes to make friends – even if that means taking risks. Rather than yelling or arguing with each other, parents should provide warmth and support to their teens. Talk with your teen, helping them sort through problems and encouraging them to form positive friendships with other students.

Ages 17 to 18: Steering Them Toward the Future

While the parts of the brain that control the judgment and decision-making of a teenager are more fully developed at this age, teenagers’ social skills are still maturing. It’s easier for teens to take notice of the feelings of others, allowing them to show empathy. Continue to provide your child with the support they need to lead a happy and healthy life, encouraging them to focus on their future as high school graduation nears. Show your support for their upcoming collegiate career, as well as the rest of their endeavors.

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