As a parent, you only want what’s best for your child. When you see them hurting, rebelling or suffering from past trauma, your first steps may be to get them help through a professional therapist near your home.
In some cases, being able to talk things out with someone new can help. The therapist may be able to make recommendations, such as whether or not your daughter needs additional services or medication. Sometimes, however, seeing a therapist just isn’t enough. The problem is knowing when a therapist isn’t working anymore.
How to Tell When Your Daughter’s Therapist Isn’t Working
- She Doesn’t Feel Heard- The job of a therapist is to listen and help sort your emotions. They are trained to listen actively. This means they express both verbal and non-verbal cues to let you know they are actually listening. If your daughter feels she isn’t being heard by her therapist, she’s going to be much less willing to open and share her difficulties. Why would she if no one is listening?
- She Begins Having More Symptoms or Trouble- When a troubled teen visits the therapist, most parents expect that things in the house, in school and elsewhere will change. If your daughter still experiences signs of depression, rebels against authority or continues lashing out due to past trauma, it’s likely the therapist isn’t working for her. She may benefit from a therapeutic school environment. At our boarding school for girls, your daughter will participate in various therapeutic programs that will help her address and heal from the past and her perceptions of those problems. Through our concept of Strong Relationality, we’ll help her change those perceptions for the better. This will result in a reduction of, or elimination of, the symptoms she was visiting the therapist for.
- She Feels Judged- Therapists are only human, so they can make mistakes. That doesn’t mean your daughter needs to continue seeing them though. If your daughter is feeling judged during her therapy session, it’s likely that the therapist is implicitly or explicitly judging her actions and behaviors. Maybe they accidentally dismissed her or made light of something she said. The end result is the same. It doesn’t matter what your child has done or what she is discussing with her therapist—she should never feel judged.
- She Doesn’t Trust Them- If your daughter doesn’t feel free to open up about her life in a therapy session without fearing the consequences of doing so, then she’s not with the right therapist. These individuals hold a person’s lives in their hands. They have to show that they are protecting your daughter’s interests and will keep her information private. If they can’t, it’s the wrong fit.
Sometimes a therapist will remind your daughter of a family member or person she’s had trouble with in the past. Although this is no fault of either party, it can result in a lack of trust on your daughter’s part and it’s not likely she will receive the full benefits of her session.
- They Tell You It’s Not The Right Fit- Sometimes it’s not the parent or child that ends the trips to the therapist. It’s the therapists themselves. Keep in mind that these are professionals trained to help people. They’re going to know if your daughter would benefit more from a higher level of care, like our boarding school for girls. Listen to their recommendations.
Therapeutic Programs at Our School
Greenbrier Academy for Girls offers several therapeutic programs that help address different issues your daughter may be dealing with. Some are conventional, such as one-on-one therapy and group therapy, while others think outside the box, like our equine therapy and African drumming.
If your daughter isn’t have the best experience with her therapist while living at home, maybe it’s time you thought about an alternative like our therapeutic all-girls school.