Adolescence can be a tough and confusing time for teens. They often feel trapped between their childhood and becoming an adult. It’s a time of exploration, and sometimes that means testing boundaries. They’re beginning to develop more serious relationships with others, learning to drive and making decisions about what they want to do with the rest of their life. These decisions have lasting impacts on their futures as young adults. While all of these things are happening, your teen is experiencing new changes in their emotions and their bodies.
When you think about all this, it can be easy to understand why your teen can seem angry at times. However, there’s a big difference between a teenage daughter that displays anger once in a while and a teen that consistently responds in an angry way.
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How teens handle their anger is also an important factor. According to a Harvard Medical School study, approximately two-thirds of teens in the US have had an attack of anger that has led to engaging in or threatening violence.
So, how can you help your teenager handle anger and other difficult emotions in constructive ways? Let’s take a look at a few situations.
Your teen daughter walks into her room after school to find that her little brother has gone through her things while she was away. Her diary sits open on the bed. She yells down the hall that her brother is no longer allowed in her room before she slams the door.
In this instance, your daughter is angry, but for a specific reason. Her privacy has been compromised, and that has upset her.
What to do: Wait until she has calmed down, then talk to your daughter about how to approach this type of situation in a healthy way. Having conversations with your teen daughter about handling difficult emotions can go a long way. Make sure she understands that slamming the door or yelling will not help, but a healthy discussion with her little brother might. Then, with your help, have her talk to her brother, being sure to help her find the right words so he understands what he did wrong and how she felt about the situation.
Your daughter comes home from a friend’s house, and you smile and ask her what she and her friend did. Without warning, she suddenly explodes, screaming at you.
If you find yourself walking on eggshells around your teen because every response they give you to a look or a simple question is red hot anger, you have a situation that needs to be addressed. In these instances, there seems to be no apparent reason behind the anger, though there may be some that you are not yet aware of.
What to do: It’s best to wait until she has calmed down enough to have a conversation. Asking for outside help is always a good idea. Remember, there’s no such thing as a “perfect parent” and it’s okay to ask for help sometimes. She may need a mental health therapist, a behavioral therapist or even a change of surroundings and extended assistance at a therapeutic boarding high school.
Angry Teen to Compassionate Leader:
While you may not be able to understand the reasons behind your daughter’s anger, helping them build good habits around how to handle them can set them up for success in the long run. Using some deep breathing techniques and regular exercise habits can help channel anger and other negative emotions in constructive ways. If the outbursts include things like…
- suffering from addiction to drugs or alcohol
- having difficulties developing relationships with others
- exhibiting symptoms that they may be suffering from a mental health disorder like depression or PTSD.
A therapeutic boarding school like Greenbrier can help with each of these issues and guide your daughter onto a path of long lasting success. If you think your teenage daughter is in need of more support than you can provide at home, give us a call today and reclaim your life, while we help your struggling teen daughter reclaim hers.