Parenting a teenager who’s defiant or disrespectful can be frustrating. While there are ways to respond to a disrespectful teen, we’ve found that their environment and peer culture play a significant role in teenage defiance.
At Greenbrier, we’re a therapeutic boarding school that treats Oppositional Defiant Disorder through a unique approach. When looking for defiant teenager programs, students should be motivated from the inside out, not the outside in, to make new choices about their behavior and relationships.
How do we do this? The Aspirations Model, which is at the heart of our therapeutic boarding school culture. This program allows the girls to discuss and investigate five Aspirational qualities and receive feedback from their peers as they move through the five modules.
To journey through five Aspirational Modules, group discussions are held and facilitated by students, and mentored by clinical and residential staff members.
We’ve seen this program transform Oppositional Defiance Disorder. Peer support can be a powerful motivator for even the most difficult defiant teenager.
Here’s the five Aspirational Modules:
Gratitude and Respect
Gratitude and Respect, as the first aspiration, creates the foundation for healthy relationships. To establish the foundation for relationships, it is important to recognize that the intent of all the aspirations we journey through must come from the basis and mother of all virtues. LOVE. Love is truly the most powerful force of life. It is powerful enough to ignite our emotions, guide us in a positive light and provide meaning to our lives.
Courtesy and Compassion
The second aspiration is Courtesy and Compassion and follows a well-built foundation of the first aspiration of Gratitude and Respect. With Courtesy and Compassion starts the extension beyond self and allows you to give more fully to relationships with others.
Empathy and Forgiveness
Empathy and Forgiveness is the third aspiration and represents how the closer relationships get to trust, the more they deepen and grow. Empathy and Forgiveness allows us to understand relationships while holding other’s mistakes, flaws, and pain and also celebrating each other’s joy and successes. When showing empathy, we have the ability to put ourselves in another’s shoes and feel what they feel and allow forgiveness to let us let go of how another’s struggle has hurt us in our journey.
Humility and Honor
The fourth aspiration is Humility and Honor. With this aspiration we are able to stand in our truth in relationships. We are able to claim who we are with both our strengths and our weaknesses. We are able to know when we need support, love and guidance from others in our lives. When you are able to do this, you know how to honor your relationships, new beliefs, and values in life.
The last aspiration is Trust. With trust comes having people rely and have faith in your integrity, strengths, and character. To be trustworthy is to be worthy of people’s confidence. Trust is the consequence of all other aspirations and what we ultimately want in relationships.
Once a student has graduated all Aspirations, they have the opportunity to revisit an aspiration they have already completed.
For these reasons, we may be helpful in your search for a program for teenage defiance.
To learn more about Greenbrier Academy and how the Aspirations impact our student culture, call us at 877-788-842.