Your daughter isn’t a little girl anymore. The rules (whether spoken or unspoken) of living with a teenage girl may have thrown you for a loop. She’s going through many developmental changes and becoming more of an individual. Maybe you’ve noticed things have gone too far and she’s become a defiant teenage daughter whom you hardly recognize. Don’t worry. There are many parents who struggle in this transition, just like you. You have options. Here are some things to consider.
Adolescent Development and Mood Swings
With all of the physical changes your daughter is going through, she may have drastic mood swings that make it difficult for you to communicate well. Talk to her about these changes and let her know you’re there for her to talk to. You can also teach her to control her mood swings by showing her different coping skills like deep breathing, taking a walk, or journaling. Giving her healthy habits to start coping with overwhelming emotions can prevent teenage defiance. Wait for a calm moment to talk to her about this so she’s in the right mindset.
Don’t Take Her Defiant Behavior Personally
There’s no such thing as a perfect parent. Just because your teen daughter is acting out, it doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. After considering the biological changes she’s going through, your role as her parent is to remain available and set healthy boundaries for her. She may be becoming more of her own person, but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t need your guidance anymore; even if she behaves or says that she doesn’t. Try to listen when she talks to you and practice being a role model for her.
Programs for Oppositional Defiance Disorder
As a parent, it’s okay to ask for help. Maybe things have gotten out of control at home. Is she sneaking out at night? Using drugs? Shutting you out to the point where you don’t even know what’s going on in her life? Unfortunately Oppositional Defiance Disorder is on the rise in American youth, but the good news is that there are programs where your daughter can get help.
Oftentimes teen defiance (especially when it’s become bad enough for a diagnosis of Oppositional Defiance Disorder) requires a totally new environment, surrounded by a positive, new peer group in order to achieve real, lasting change.
Programs for Oppositional Defiance Disorder range in their models, length of stay, and so much more. At Greenbrier Academy, we know what you’re going through as hundreds of parents have walked through our doors needing help for a teenage daughter who’s become defiant and disrespectful. Many have been diagnosed with ODD and we are here to tell you that help is available and healing is possible.
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