Greenbrier’s Family Therapy Specialist
Greenbrier Academy provides a full spectrum of work with families. I am proud and grateful to be a part of such a supportive, caring, passionate team of people.
First, you will receive a welcome call from me within a few days of your daughter’s arrival on campus. I do a quick introduction and set up a phone call to begin our work together, explaining my role at GBA and how it differs from that of your daughter’s primary therapist, as well as some housekeeping details. From there, we can arrange a standing phone or video call every other week. Of course, you may need more or less, or different support at various stages of the process while your daughter’s enrolled. We’re free to flex up and down as needed.
Sometimes there may be moments where education about adolescent brain development, individuation, attachment and adoption dynamics, manipulation, boundaries, enmeshment, relapse, and so on, are needed. Some of this happens on our regular calls, but some of it happens during monthly video conferences.
Historically, small groups of Greenbrier parents whose daughters were at roughly the same stage of the process, attended the Parent Programs together, where they became support systems for each other.
Our monthly video conferences give you an opportunity to connect with other families. Oftentimes parents whose students are doing very well and getting ready to graduate can support parents who are new to the process and anxious or uncertain.
Several families whose daughters have graduated from Greenbrier Academy still utilize my support for various situations that might come up.
Together, we have handled responding differently to students pushing boundaries, how to hold the line, and how to support their daughters in becoming their own people while maintaining the structure they have set up.
As your daughter nears transition, we will talk about how to support her coming home. This may include setting boundaries, allowing her appropriate freedoms, and building a support system at home. I talk about “normal arguing,” and that the goal is not necessarily smoothness; the goal is a commitment to getting through each challenge without anyone getting hurt.
After a few weeks or a few months past your daughter’s transition home, you may find that you’ve developed some comfort in your own skills of navigating the challenges, and can move into a new rhythm of “normal” in your family.